Why is it said that one should never test human nature?
Brothers, there is no chicken soup today, only arsenic.
18 human truths that will make you break out in a cold sweat, the earlier you understand them, the clearer you will be.
1. No matter who you are dealing with, you will be respected only if you assert yourself appropriately, and you will not be bullied if you refuse appropriately, because human nature tends to take advantage of the weak and fear the strong; there are very few exceptions.
The most painful moment in life is always caused by the person you let your guard down for. The deepest pit you fall into is often dug by the person you sympathize with. Some people are not worth getting close to, and knowing some people is even a mistake.
2. When you are eating dirt, no one will ask you if it is hard. When you are eating meat, someone always asks you if it is fragrant. In this world, there are actually very few people who sincerely help you. Those who say every day that they hope you live well are often the ones who can't stand to see you doing well. When you have utilitarian value, they greet you with smiles and surround you. When you no longer have utilitarian value, they will find ways to avoid you. Don't try to test any feelings; in the face of interests, nothing can withstand the test. The more you grow up, the more you will find that the only reliable friends are the money in your pocket and the power in your hands.
3. Some people are poor for a reason, and some people remain poor into old age for a reason. Not all elderly people deserve respect, and certainly not all elderly people are trustworthy. You should know that bad people also grow old; scum knows no gender, and uselessness knows no age. Expired food will not provide you with any nutrition, and it might even poison you to death.
Fourth, what is unintentionally spoken is the truth, and unconscious behavior reveals a person's true nature. Offering unsolicited help is either deceitful or opportunistic. Don't listen to what he says, but rather observe what he does. Deliberate preparations represent a sense of ritual, while long-term companionship is the greatest romance.
5. When dealing with people, try to break down major issues into smaller ones and divide significant benefits into smaller benefits. If you can make the other party incur some cost upfront, don't wait until the end to pay everything together; you will have to give the benefits eventually, so if you can give them early, don't give them late. Human nature tends to fluctuate dramatically with the size of the benefits; it is unpredictable what will happen when the benefits reach a certain level.
6. Blindly yielding will only make the other party think you are easy to bully. Showing your bottom line is a way to let others know where your limits are. Taking advantage of others is human nature. The way others treat you depends on your reactions each time; how others treat you is something you taught them.
7. Life will never favor a weak person, just as history will not remember an ordinary person. If you are weak, you cannot gain good connections; if you are weak, you cannot earn others' respect; if you are weak, your life will only be cruel. Wealth and glory attract many brothers, but when one is down on their luck, dogs turn their backs; when one is thriving, thousands accompany them, but when one has nothing, who is there? Who can or cannot stand firm is revealed in times of hardship.
8. A needle does not have two sharp ends, and sugarcane is not sweet at both ends. A beautiful woman does not cook, those who cook have no career, those with a career lack femininity, those with femininity spend money recklessly, those who spend recklessly are no longer fashionable, the fashionable ones cannot be trusted, and those you can trust are not pleasing to the eye. Men are the same; a successful man simply does not have time to accompany you, and if you are devoted to the family, don’t expect him to earn so much money. So don’t be greedy; when you love a person for their strengths, being able to accept their underlying flaws is the most basic form of maturity.
9. If you drink without getting drunk, it's because you drink little. If you persuade others with virtue, it's because you can't win a fight. If you're not enamored by beauty, it's because you can't reach it. If you are indifferent to fame and fortune, it's because you truly have no way out. A sage is found in books, not in life. After having owned something, you can talk about direction. Only after experiencing something can you qualify to talk about enlightenment.
Ten, what can hurt you is never the ruthlessness of others, but the fantasies and expectations you hold in your heart. Life is not easy; you must learn to cut your losses in time. If you do not expect, do not hope, and do not long for anything, how can you experience disappointment? A stranger is three parts familiar, and a friend is three parts close; three parts is the best state of relationship. Everyone is half human and half ghost; when you get close, no one can be seen clearly.
Eleven, everyone you see is actually acting, just trying to make a living. Essentially, there isn't much difference between humans and animals, so you should be a bit more confident, do not overestimate others, and do not underestimate yourself. No one is irreplaceable, and no one is untouchable. We did not voluntarily come to this world, but we can enjoy ourselves fully before we leave, so please live a little more freely.
12. It's quite normal for newcomers to be bullied by seniors, but if that newcomer is the boss's son, no matter how honest he is, no one will bully him. This has nothing to do with the person's character or temperament. Many people mistakenly interpret the bullying they suffer due to their lack of strength as others being too overbearing and themselves being too honest. Please stop labeling others unfairly; honesty should not bear this blame. Society is like a tree full of monkeys; looking up, you see only backsides, and looking down, you see only smiling faces. Get used to anyone's hot and cold behavior and take lightly anyone's gradual distancing.
Thirteen, it is better to be strong and make others jealous than to be weak and make others pity you. Without striving and competing, the years will not pass peacefully; if you endure and yield, the petty will step on your head. To live in this world and want to feel completely at ease, one must have three parts warmth, two parts indifference, and four parts perseverance, leaving the last part for following one's desires.
Fourteen, empathize without sharing wealth; two can’t come together if they are too alike. Don’t create interests with those you have emotional ties to, and don’t get emotionally involved with those who have interests. Cooperation in business among friends and family almost always ends in failure; if it doesn’t, it’s filled with daily quarrels, because the better the relationship, the more one feels entitled. After all, where in this world is there kindness without reason?
Fifteen, when communicating with anyone, you should develop a habit of first saying what the other person likes to hear, then what they can understand, and only then can you talk about what you want to say. When people communicate, their brains always first receive emotions and then content. If your emotions are not right, even if the content you convey is correct, the other person will not be able to understand it.
16. It is better to spend time choosing the right person than to go to great lengths to change the wrong person. Dogs like to eat feces, cats like to steal food, and the nature that is engraved in the bones cannot be changed. If someone deceives you for the first time, they will come to deceive you again. The hurt is only once and countless times, right?
Seventeen, in this world, there is actually no such thing as cost-performance ratio; things that are used long-term should be bought expensively. The only advantage of cheap things is that they are cheap, and the only disadvantage of expensive things is that they are expensive. Whether something is worth it is just an illusion. Many years later, you will find that you won't be happy for the times you saved money; instead, you will only regret the experiences you never had for the rest of your life.
Eighteen, when it comes to investment and trading, many so-called successful people hide their boats after crossing the river, then turn back and tell you that if you practice hard enough, you can swim across. As a result, you struggle in the river to the point of exhaustion, believing until death that it’s just because you didn’t work hard enough. Following blindly with your eyes closed is called blind obedience. To appreciate someone, you must learn to believe with your eyes open.