#美国终止政府关闭 Someone asked me, how can a trader who is deeply in debt climb out?

My answer is simple - just admit defeat.

Don't think about breaking even, and don't dream of "going all in for a comeback." You're not losing to the market; you're losing to your unwillingness to give up.

More than three years ago, I experienced two consecutive liquidations on my futures contract. On the day my account was wiped out, my credit card was maxed out, and the interest on my online loans snowballed. In total, I owed nearly six hundred thousand.

During that time, I was completely wasted.

I dare not sleep, as I dream of the liquidation messages when I do; I dare not eat, as I feel like vomiting as soon as I do. I have more than a dozen trading apps on my phone, and I don't dare to open any of them.

Telling my family that it's a failed startup, but in reality, every penny is buried in those red and green alternating candlesticks. I've always believed that the next order will definitely bring back the losses.

What's the result? The more anxious, the more losses; the more losses, the more anxious. A vicious cycle.

The breakthrough came from an old player who had been in the game for seven or eight years. He saw that I was not in the right state and dropped a line:

"Bro, you didn't lose to the market, you lost to your obsession."

That night I uninstalled all the trading software. I didn't look at the market either, and sealed up my computer.

Start delivering food, taking freelance jobs, and providing risk control training for beginners. Earning a few thousand a month gradually pays off, and life finally feels a bit more like a human.

I haven't touched the market for a whole year, yet these have been the most stable days in recent years.

I have relearned to get up early, go for a run, and eat well, and I also found that on nights without holding positions, I sleep unexpectedly sweet.

Now the debt has been cleared. Occasionally seeing price fluctuations, I just think "oh".

"Do you want to play more?" my friend asked.

"Let's talk about it when I have some spare money." I said, "It has to be money I can afford to lose, not the capital needed for survival."

What this market has taught me is never about any get-rich-quick schemes, but rather the two words "self-restraint" —

Restrain greed, restrain impulse, restrain fantasy.

First, live well, then talk about making money.

Finding that normal self is more important than anything else.